According to David Popenoe, co-director of Rutgers National Marriage Project, the following are myths:
- Because people learn from their bad experiences, second marriages tend to be more successful than first marriages. Not true.
- Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of eventually divorcing. Not true.
- Divorce may cause problems for many of the children who are affected by it, but by and large these problems are not long lasting and the children recover relatively quickly. Not true.
- Having a child together will help a couple to improve their marital satisfaction and prevent a divorce. Not true.
- Following divorce, the woman’s standard of living plummets by seventy three percent while that of the man’s improves by forty two percent. Not true.
- When parents don’t get along, children are better off if their parents divorce than if they stay together. Not true.
- Because they are more cautious in entering marital relationships and also have a strong determination to avoid the possibility of divorce, children who grow up in a home broken by divorce tend to have as much success in their own marriages as those from intact homes. Not true.
- Following divorce, the children involved are better off in stepfamilies than in single-parent families. Not true.
- Being very unhappy at certain points in a marriage is a good sign that the marriage will eventually end in divorce. Not true.
- It is usually men who initiate divorce proceedings. Not true.