Go and visit Boundless for a short and interesting article on relationships:
For couples who’ve been dating a year or more, it’s as simple as this: Get married or break up. Here’s an excerpt from Scott Croft’s “From ‘Hi’ to ‘I Do’ in a Year” explaining why.
To put it simply, “not acting married before you’re married” … gets exponentially more difficult the longer a pre-marital relationship persists. If … our goal is to move positively toward God-glorifying lives (rather than simply to “walk the line” by attempting to satisfy our fleshly desires as much as possible without sinning), wisdom and godliness would seem to counsel keeping relationships shorter.
And if you think your circumstance (e.g., long distance relationship, in college, etc.) warrants a longer relationship, Scott provides some compelling reasons why it doesn’t matter.
Here’s his answer to the “long distance” excuse:
“This argument doesn’t really apply to us, because we’re in a long-distance relationship.”
I think it does, even if the physical circumstances are different. As to emotional intimacy, we live in the age of e-mail, free long distance and unlimited any-time minutes, and cheap flights. It’s still really easy to “act married” emotionally, even in a long-distance relationship.
As to physical intimacy, many long-distance couples have told me that because they are not physically close to one another as often, they actually experience more intense physical temptation when they’re together. And again, if you believe the stats, long-distance couples don’t do any better than others at staying physically pure.